Distressed? Just DE-STRESS

IN OUR short lives, there are often long spells of leave-me-alone moments. Many-a-time worries leave one torpid and the feeling that we have hit rock bottom hovers. The nature of challenge is different at different stages of life. The shades differ, as backgrounds of people are disparate.
If such a sinking feeling slaps again, leave at least a speck of willpower, so that clinging to it, you may bounce back to normalcy.
And, according to Rajesh Aggarwal, a motivational speaker, "Stress is not real. It is illusionary. It is created. It is because of external reasons. If you know and believe in yourself and your potential you cannot be stressed."
Says a placid Rajesh, "People call me a motivational coach, corporate trainer, motivator, but I would like to be known as a friend."
His hobby of interacting with people propelled him to take up counselling. He `coaches' people on stress handling skills, emotional fitness, public speaking, increasing confidence level and many more facets in his `Qualitative Life Mastery' programme. To give a peep into it, he conducts preview seminars twice a month. ` "I worked with a training organisation. My programme turned out to be a changing point in the lives of many. That egged me on to open my own company, Rebirth Incorporated, in 2000. Since then, I have conducted several seminars and workshops motivating people and empowering them spiritually, so they can tackle all psychological problems. People attending the session include housewives, corporates, students, and entrepreneurs. It is a heterogeneous group," says the immaculately dressed power speaker. A firm believer in `continuous and non-stop improvement' - abbreviated by him to `CAN I' - Rajesh feels the concept applies equally to him. No wonder he keeps upgrading himself every year, adding to his personal growth by attending various training programmes.
Asserts Rajesh, "Everyday concepts are changing. If you are not up to date, you are out of date. All our concepts and techniques are revised and upgraded every 90 days. Thirty-five per cent of my income goes on my own training."
He does not forget to add, "I don't carry my visiting card while I go to attend any training programme, because that would be carrying an ego."
Do people these days require motivational talk to go about their daily lives?
"At times reminder is not a bad idea. In our day-to-day lives we forget about natural talents like happiness, bliss, positive attitude, we gradually start crumbling under pressure, stress. We get emotionally baffled. Training makes one realise about the natural talent. So reminder is not a bad idea. However, I can motivate only those people who have the willingness to get motivated. The programme is participative, it gets into the listeners' head and touches their heart."
A bank deposit
How many would remember the pep talk after couple of days?
"The training is like a long-term bank deposit. It is with you and you implement it, whenever you feel you are in hot water. I also take follow-up sessions and give individual counselling if need be," says Rajesh, who has penned "Seven Keys to Prosperity and Success".
His parting tip: "Wherever you are and whatever is happening, accept it, not necessarily agree with it, but accepting the situation reduces the intensity of trauma. What you do is not so important but how you do it is. Live ordinary lives in an extraordinary way."